Dreams- oddities

I angers me to no end when I have dreams of my Ex.  Now, technically speaking I have two exes, but I'm on speaking terms with one while the other... not so much (the reason for this is a topic for another post, maybe one later this week).  It's the non-speaking-terms one that I seem to have dreams about though.  It only happens once a month, but his face will crop up in a dream and when I wake up I'll be all panic-y and confused because I don't know if my subconscious is trying to tell me something or if I'm just over-thinking things. 

I'm happy in my current relationship.  I love Kyle- I can't stay mad at him for the life of me (one time I was pissed at him for a whole weekend, but after we talked about it and apologized it was like nothing had ever happened) and that instant forgiveness was something missing in my last relationship.  Also, we don't argue.  Not really, or very often, that is.  My last boyfriend loved(loves) to argue, or so it seemed, and I would always get upset when we would argue.  To me, arguing is something that happens right before a physical altercation (some people notice that I get very, very quiet and seem to disappear when arguments are happening).   And bottom line, it was probably the arguing that did it in and allowed me to let my feelings for Kyle grow when we met, though it took about a drink and a half to get me to admit my feelings to him (two weeks before Valentines day 2010, mind you). 

Back to the dreams.  They make me miss my Ex, (thus the confusion, panic, and other feelings) but I don't know if I really miss him or if I miss the Idea of him.  Do I miss the relationship we had, or just the highlights reel?  I was with him for just about three years, which is a really long time if you think about it, and long enough for my mind to think of him at my side as the norm.  I do miss parts of the relationship that we had, and bits of him, but not all of it.  Not enough to really rethink where my love-life is.  Besides, there's other avenues I would like to explore were I to become single again (something that is not planned for the foreseeable future).

Just a ramble that I needed to get off my chest.  Thoughts and comments would be nice.